According to him, nuptials were meant to be very private, and, that nobody really cares about the wedding except those who are getting wed themselves (the latter is what I strongly oppose). But since he said it so candidly, I continued to listen. Based on my interpretation of his premise (or at least what I thought I heard, hahaha!!!) , he advised those getting married and planning a wedding party to stop making their guests suffer by giving-in to their whims and fixations like, the type and color of clothes guests should wear (please come in pastels, in floral, etc.), by buying the gifts specified on the wish lists (yes, they do have wish lists, discreetly, by informing guests of their wedding registry in selected department store or shops, some even limit their gift wish list to pricey items, just how inappropriate is that?). I think the guy made a valid point.
Why can’t the guests wear the clothes they prefer to wear, or choose the gifts they can afford, or is really meaning to give, scratch conformity. I observed too, in one or two occasions, guests are obliged to shell-out extra cash for clothes to wear and to buy the gifts they think would please the couple instead of giving the gift which comes from their hearts. So, instead of looking forward to attending the wedding, the guests dread the event, at times feel reluctant to be there, and worst of all, some end up with excuses of not showing up, instead of celebrating with the couple tying the knot.
Perceptible isn’t it? But I love weddings and I enjoy attending wedding parties because it’s romantic and I’d like to see as many beautiful brides, their gowns, the head dresses, and the flower arrangements. On a more serious note, I endear being witness to a sacred union which to me is really especial and worth celebrating. Imagine – finding two people (most of the times very much opposites), joining them, and hear them promise their lives to each other, together, forever. Awesome!
Talking of weddings, my friend Allen and husband-to-be Lowell (they maybe off for the honeymoon already as I write this piece), chose me to be one of their primary sponsors (the fifth couple I am to). Of course, they are not the kind of person who gives out wish lists, and theirs is not the type of wedding mentioned above. Allen is such a sweet and loving person and although I don’t know Lowell that much, I’m sure he’s one very good man, and their nuptial is like a dream… A garden wedding on a cool December morning in scenic Tagaytay shared with the family, closest relatives and friends, solemn and romantic, I imagined it to be. I wished I was there to witness the sweetest moment in their lives, but since I cannot be – I’m just sending them both this loving message...
The warmest best wishes for your married life. May God shower you with enough blessings to make your life together stronger. And I’d like to add, Dear Allen and Lowell that I am so honored and pleased to be one of your "Ninangs."For those getting married, and those planning to get married in the future, I'm leaving you a borrowed line from Hallmark, "Weddings are more than a long-awaited day, it is the beautiful beginning of all the days of your life together," soooo thoughtful.
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